Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Sad Week in Tonga

I had planned to tell you a bit about the life-style in Tonga this week, but an unexpected event happened and so I will try to cover it instead.

About 2 weeks ago there was a group of 25 Graduate Nurses from BYU Idaho who arrived here in Tonga with their Directer and her husband, Gayle and Gary Lee. They come every 2 years with a group to do service and learn from the experiences of the Island. Bro Lee served his mission here as a young man and so they both LOVE the Tongan people and their Island. In additon to the great services that they render while here, they also site-see under the direction of Bro and Sis Lee and a local Tongan couple.

Last Thur. was one such day and they were all in a bus with a Tongan couple traveling to see some sites on the Island. Interestingly the Land Bridge ( Hufangalupe Cliff) was not on their list, but as they approached it, Sis Lee wanted to stop and show the girls this amazing site. The Tongan couple said, "no, not today, maybe another time." Now, I must insert here that the Tongan people seem to have a "reverence" about nature. They understand it's beauties and also know of its power and destruction at a moments change. They live with it everyday and so do not try to change it or control it, but have a respect for it and its power. When it is high-tide they do not approach the water, they patiently wait until it is down (small example of their respect for nature)

Anyway, they stopped the bus at her insistance and Sis Lee jumped off first and hurried the girls along. To tell what happened next is really hard, and I will not go into details - that I will do when we are home for those who are interested because there is really a beautiful side to this. Within minutes of leaving the bus, Sis Lee fell about 100 feet into a rocky pool of water which has been formed by the undercutting of the limestone cliff by the oceans water over the years, forming a Land Bridge which is about 50 feet wide. Her husband climbed and fell, sustaining injuries, down into the hole with 2-3 Tongan men and they tried to get to her body which was still visible in the pool, but were unable to reach her before the waves took her out to sea. They have not found her body yet, and are still looking.

Needless to say this has been a horrifying experience for Bro Lee and these students. They were at the temple that night and Pres. Shumway (the temple pres.) talked to them as well as the Mission Pres. - Pres. McMurry. They then did a session, which Dad and I officiated and baptisms. The next day they decided that they should not go home but stay and do all the projects that they had arranged to do, because that is what Sis Lee would want them to do. Bro Lee also felt that was the thing to do, so they did. He was pretty banged up by the waves hitting him into the cliff, but is recoverying quite well.

BYU Idaho wanted them to come home early, so they pushed all their projects into a shorter time and skipped the remaining site-seeing. We opened up the use of our Vonage phone to the girls so that they could call families, husbands, and make new arrangements for flights home from LA. So the last 4 days we have had all 25 girls here at least 2-3 times each as they made their arrangements and called their loved ones. It has been such a tender time with them and we got to know them as individuals. What a sweet group of young ladies, some married and with several children, kind of took over as the "mother" figure to the younger ones and it was such a sweet thing to experience with them. We did a lot of talking, crying and trying to understand.

The school sent the Directer of Nursing and her husband over to accompany them home. When she arrived she was amazed at how well the girls were doing. And they will tell you that the Island people gave them their love and physical help that has helped fill their immmediate need as well as their emotional needs.

Yesterday, the Stake Pres. arranged a Memorial for Sis Lee at the request of Bro Lee, and it was a beautiful tribute to her. Among other things, the message was that those who die living the gospel will not taste the bitterness of death but that it will be sweet unto them (D&C 42:46, this is part of the story that I will tell you at home.) They were also told by Pres. Nau (Tongan Stake Pre.) that as people return to the site, they will not find her there and they will not see her body, just like they did not find the Savior's body in the tomb when they returned there to see him, because she, like the Savior has gone on to her place with Heavenly Father.

Bro Lee said yesterday, as he spoke at the Memorial, "if I were to pick a place for my Sweetheart to leave this life from, I could not have chosen a better place than here in Tonga, because we both have a great love for these people and this Island."

Yes, the week has been saddened by this event. The students have experienced something that has changed who they are and how they feel about somethings. They told us that over and over. They said it was the "hardest thing they have ever gone through and it has made me a different person than I was when I came." We heard this from several of them. So, we know that we learn from our experiences, allow the growth to take place and then we will become more of the person that we are to be. May we all remember that when we have hard experiences to endure, there is something for us to learn from it; and how we endure it will determine how we are blessed by it or how far we fall.

We love you all, and know that the Lord is aware of each of us and our needs. He will be as close to us in our time of need as we choose for Him to be. Open the door daily through prayer and an open mind to His promptings.

Love to all of you, Dad and Mom / Grandpa and Grandma

PS We will post pictures of this site in a week or two.

Saturday, April 17, 2010

First full week of Medical Services

Hello family and friends,

Well, this is the first full 5 day week of dentistry because of all the breaks and holidays they have here. It has been a busy week. Each morning as we arrive at the clinic there are 8-10 people sitting on the bench and grass waiting for us to open, and most of them have been there at least an hour. Usually they are in pain. So Dick is trying to teach the girls in the front to leave 1-1 1/2 hours for emergency (new concept for them) and then have the scheduled procedures after that, and another block of time right after lunch for the same emergency time. These people will sit there all day long waiting to see the dentist. When we break for lunch, they will sit there through the lunch hour and never leave and never be anxious about all the waiting. They are use to it, I guess.

The more patients we see the more Dad feels like the little boy who stuck his finger in the hole in the dam to keep the water from coming, it is overwelming. Every mouth that he looks in has more decay than you would want to see all day. There was a study done here that showed by the age of 6, they have the average of 6 missing or decayed teeth. I really wish we would have taken a picture of the sweet little 3 year old girl, big happy smile, no fear, who jumped up in the dental chair. When she opened her cute little mouth it was all BLACK WITH DECAY. I teared up. How sad. We had a 17 year old in the chair who denied knowing what dental floss was, and when Dick showed her a piece she had no idea what it was for, and her mouth validated that. It is obvious that the most rampant disease on this Island is not diabetes (52% of all people over 50 have diabetes!) but it is dental caries. Dick spends his day doing extractions and trying to do emergency treatment so they can come back for a rootcanal and he tries to save a tooth. It is really a very sad situation.

Soooooooooooooooo, that is why most of our off hours are being spent doing research on public health programs, and Dick is putting together his own program to meet the needs here and will collect the top Government, Medical, Public Services, educators, commnity leaders, etc and present his program to them in such a way that they will see it as THEIR PROGRAM, FOR THEIR PEOPE, AND THEIR ISLAND. When they accept this, he will work with them to get a movie made, contest in the schools to find floss and tooth brushes in nature, and a scheduled program to take the movie into the villages on a bi-annual basis and teach the families about diet, brushing, flossing, bottle-mouth decay, sweets (especially pop), etc. If they can teach the families at the schools, churches, and community centers it will make a huge difference. He thinks it would make a measurable difference within 5 years. He will use his contacts at church headquarters (Tim Taggart, his cousin is in charge of all videos for the church) and approach the BYU programs where we could possibly find a student needing to have a residency or intership in Public Health that would take this on for a few months and get it running. The possibility of it being put in different languages and sent to all the South Pacific Islands (who have the same problem) is good if we get this backing from BYU and the church.

Usually the dentist that come to work at this clinic only stay for a week or two. They probably see the same problems as Dad, but are not here long enough to make a difference. I feel that is why we are here for 5 months, so HE CAN MAKE THE DIFFERENCE THESE PEOPLE NEED. Dad is a good organizer and can get this presented quickly, so hopefully it will be in their hands when we leave and they will keep it going.

They say it is fall and cooling off. We see them wearing sweatshirts with hoods, coats, jackets, they bring in blankets to the clinic because we still have the AC on, and we are still feeling really hot. I guess it all depends on what you are use to. Rain comes in an instant and drops buckets just as fast.

With a church every 2 miles, because over 50% of the people are LDS, Sundays are a joy. All classes at church are open to the outside with loovers that are always open. So when classes meet it is heard all over. These people love to sing as all polynesians do and start and finish every class with a song. So when, RS, YW, YM, Primary, SS, and Priesthood class are going, every class is singing their own song at the same time. The choristers do not try to start everyone at the same time, they just start singing and within the first line there are 4-5 different harmonies that develop. It is beautiful. Today in RS, I am sure that I was the only person singing the written melody (and that made me sound like harmony too, yeh) You do not hear this kind of singing at home.

We think of all of you daily and miss you tons, Dad and Mom

Saturday, April 10, 2010

Life the Tongan way

Hello Everyone,

This has been a good week. Actually the clinic has not been open much because they had Sports Day (which lasted 3 days), all the high schools from this Island and even some from other Tongan Islands came together and had track competition. We were able to go one day and it was fun to see them all in their different colored uniforms as they marched into the stadium. They do lots of chants and ritual things that are fun to watch (we took video of for when we come home) It is so hot that there were many of the students who would just pass out and fall on the track from heat exhaustion (my diagnosis)and the officials would just drag them to the side and stand there waiting for them to come around. I just about jumped up and went down and wanted to pour water on them to help get their body temp. down, but Dad said not to. They were laying all over the track. It was hard for me to watch. After the entire 3 days of competition was over, the Liahona (church English speaking school where we are staying and working) came out on top with the most gold metals. They were excited about that.

Even though the clinic was not open this week, we would go in and each day there were 10-11 people that would just stop by with pain and so we would work on them. It feels good to be of help when they are in pain. The sad thing continues to be the amount of decay each mouth has in it. Dad has been "inspired" that we should go to the top of the Public Medical Service Dept. and see if we can create a panel (with top Tongan leaders so this is their program and it will work after we go) that will address education to the people of the island on dental hygiene and even have a contest in the high schools to find something in nature that they can use as dental floss to improve their situation. Yes, they do have floss in the stores, but it is soooooooooo expensive that they would never buy it. We are thinking of things like fibers from a coconut husk, a vein in the coconut leaf or banana leaf, maybe a strand of their long black beautiful hair, a strand of tapa, etc. But Dick thinks it is something that they should come up with so it is their idea and program. Great idea.

Last Wed. night we were invited to visit with the Temple Pres. (Pres. Shumway), and while we were there he set us apart to be Ordinance Workers, and we started to serve the next day. Each Thurs. night the 7:00 session is in English and so he has asked us to officiate there each week. It was a wonderful experience. Dad asked for instructions on officiating and their comment was "Oh, it is just the same as any other temple, just go ahead and do it." And he did, of course there were a few differences in physical set up, but he was right, Dad did do just fine. Just like the Tongan way, JUST HAVE FAITH AND DO IT. So every Thur. we will serve at the temple from 4:30 till closing at 9:00 pm. The Tongan people are so reverent in the temple that we can hardly hear what they are saying, they whisper so quietly, it is really a different level of reverence than we see in our temples at home. We met one man who told Dad that for the last 2 1/2 years he has done 8 sessions every day. That means that he is there for the first at 5:oo AM (he must start walking at least an hour before that) and does the 7,9,11,1,3,5, and final session at 7:00 PM. (that is the only way you can do 8 sessions in one day) How is that for a standard. The Sis. that works in the office starts at 4:30 AM and stays till 6:00 PM (she is a payed employee for 8 hours and the rest is offered in service) We love these people and their love for the temple.

Friday night we took in a dinner and Tongan show at one of the local Beach Resorts and it was wonderful. The food was typical Tongan and very good, we did stay away from the fish, especially the raw fish (sorry to those of you who love sushi) because we have seen a couple of people who have gotten sick. There were probably 50-75 people there and they had roasted 4 big pigs plus all the other food. It was delicious and a great program. The dancers cover themselves with oil and we found out the reason is because it is tradition here that people from the audiance go up and stick money on them, with the oily skin it stays. It is so fun to watch.

Well, that is it for now. Love, hug and kisses to everyone. Thank you for all the good emails this week. It is fun for us to hear what is going on. And the pictures are wonderful.

Sidenote: We have had 11 inches of rain this week and there is no flooding or puddling, where does it go?

Sunday, April 4, 2010

Finally in Tonga

We finished up our stay in Austraia by spending the night with a couple of our favorite SLC - TSQ missionaries. Cynthia Rao and Pena Lafiso, they are beautiful girls and great missionaries. It was so fun to see them and catch up on what many of the other sisters are doing now that they are home.

Tonga is green, beautiful, lush, hot, humid, full of bugs and creatures, and wonderful people. The Islanders are humble happy people and we are loving those we have met. It has been raining a ton since we arrived and when it rains, it pours. If we have the door open we can hear it coming and it is suddenly a down pour like we have never seen and in less than 5 minutes we have an inch puddle on the front step, but this does not faze the islanders, they keep right on going with what ever they are doing.

The Tongans live in very humble circumstances, usually with no running water and no electricity. Yet they put the whites laundry out to dry, I would really like to know their secret. We have taken very few pictures of their homes, because we feel it is disrepectful, but they are happy and seem to not want for more. They talk of Tonga as the "Kingdom" and feel that it is God's favorite place on earth - and it could well be. On Sat. everything closes early and nothing is allowed to be open until Mon. morning. So there are no businesses open on Sunday, which is really a wonderful thing. The police patrol to make sure that no one is open, infact, they can not even go to the beach on Sun. or the police will stop them.

We have to go to about 4-5 different stores to find all the food items that we want. Each has their specialty, so there in no one-stop-shopping here, but that is okay. We go to an Open Market and get lots of the fresh island grown stuff. Yesterday I saw a bunch of broccoli in one of the stores but did not get it, because it was $19.95/lb= $10.00 US Tooooooo expensive.

We see great humbleness and dedication in the church here. Yesterday at church we talked with a young married man, about 28-29, who is an RM and he teaches the Missionary Prep class. Each Sun. he starts walking at 3:00 AM to arrive at the church by 4:00, this gives him 2 hours of prep and then the class starts at 6:00. He has 98 in his class right now. They continue to come until they leave on their mission. He has sent out over 1000 since he started teaching.

There is a LDS church about every 2 miles on the island, so that no one has to walk for more than 1 mile to get to church. They are the best kept and cleanest bldgs on the island and really beautiful. When ever there is a hurricane or cyclone warning, everyone goes to the LDS bldgs for physical protection and spiritual comfort, even those that are not LDS, they feel it is the safest bldg on the island. About 52% of the 80,000 people on the island are LDS.

The dental clinic is good, it has tons of "stuff" but often not all of any one product needed. So Dad "improvises" a lot. I have always said and known that Dad was a good dentist, but now I know from a closer knowledge. He is training me to be his "chairside assistant". Put me in an L&D, NICU, or Dialysis and I can function very quickly, but a dental office! This is a whole new world. But I am enjoying it and it is fun to work at his side. Dad is gentle in the mouth, quick to diagnose and knows what needs to be done within a few diagnostic looks. His "Donald Duck" talk is thought to be strange here, because most of these young people do not know who Donald Duck is. Sad.

I promise the next entery will be shorter, sorry. We love you all and miss you, but good things are happening here because of Dad's work. He is a wonderful gift to these people.

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